Thursday, June 18, 2009

How to Talk to Girls' movie adaptation: Please don't suck!

Another day, another advice book adaptation. Plans to turn 4th grader Alex Greven's relationship guide, How to Talk to Girls, into a feature film keep trucking along, with two scribes (Ben Karlin and Stu Zicherman) officially signing on to write the flick. I know I'm supposed to look at such a film and think, Aww, shucks, ain't it a cute that a book schooling jaded adults in the ways of the world will hit the big screen? But nope. I can't. Maybe it's because I can't believe that any nine year old could actually spout out good dating advice, since most male youngsters roped me into conversation in elementary school by punching me in the shoulder and calling me "Kate Wart." Or maybe it's the fact that last night's I'm a Celebrity... has made me lose all faith in humanity in general. But, more likely, it's probably because this genre hasn't been executed too well as of late, what with He's Just Not That Into You and Fireproof bombing with critics.

But that's not to say that How to Talk to Girls can't be successful. Just look at some of the more winning advice-book adaptations: Mean Girls and Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex* (*But Were Afraid to Ask). Of course, we're not going to see a nine year old's piece of work adapted into a racy, eccentric, Woody Allen masterpiece. But with Night at the Museum director Shawn Levy at the helm, we could see a fun family movie that I can only hope comes complete with pocket-sized versions of Owen Wilson. (I'm joking, of course. Maybe.) And there's another reason to be hopeful: Screenwriter Karlin is a writer and executive producer of The Daily Show. That, thankfully, makes me believe that Girls won't take itself too seriously and turn into some form of precocious schlock starring Abigail Breslin and Patrick Dempsey.

Thoughts, PopWatchers? Are you excited for Girls? Do you, like me, think Hollywood should get into the habit of turning advice books into movies as rarely as possible?

How To Talk To Women…and Not Bomb!

If you had the ability to separate yourself from yourself and watch you approach a girl what would it look like? Would we watch your best rendition of a deer in headlights or someone who actually knew how to talk to girls? Even if you believe you are someone who knows how to talk to girls, you may want to keep reading as well, you may discover a thing or two. If your best move is the deer in headlights you will most definitely want to keep reading. Talking to girls doesn’t have to be difficult and the more you talk to girls the more comfortable you’ll get. Remember, girls are regular people just like your accountant, guy friends, classmates but only prettier. They need people to converse to them on normal topics as well. You don’t need a super interesting topic to talk about to a girl, just the will power to start a conversation with an attractive girl. There are some tips to remember however once you get a conversation going such as honestly listening, using your surroundings to talk about interesting enough relevant topics, being natural, and making a great lasting impression leaving more to be desired.

When talking to a girl, speaking is half the battle. Make sure you are honestly listening and not just thinking about the next topic. Pick up on what a woman says and use that to keep the conversation going. A girl can tell if you are listening to her or not and it is a big turn off if she gets the vibe that you aren’t truly listening to what she has to say. Make sure you seem interested in what she has to say and the best way to do that is to give great eye contact and to have a nice relevant comment after she speaks! Being interested allows her to speak more which in turn allows you to speak less. The less you talk, the more mysterious you are to her Girls for some reason are interested in men they don’t know much about, guys that have a mysterious appeal to them. Don’t reveal too much of yourself and be read like an open book.Of course, that doesn’t mean to give your best interpretation of a tree, but I am just saying to make sure to honestly listen to what she has to say.

One thing to remember is that you don’t have to have the most gripping subject to talk about in order to approach a girl. Use the surroundings around you to pick a topic. If you are the library, talk about what book you were inspired to read and how you got inspired to read that book. That right there is an interesting enough topic to talk about. You don’t have to be the most interesting man in the world, just someone who is willingly going to listen to what she has to say and have comments to respond back. You don’t have to start the conversation with a bang, any relevant topic is going to work well.

When knowing how to talk to girls, things are just going to come naturally. That is something to remember, especially if you are still nervous about how to talk to girls. Yes, you can plan what you are going to say and such but don’t plan everything right to the dot. Make sure the conversation flows in the direction it is flowing and do not try to stay on a plan just because you feel more in control that way.Going with the flow usually is going to produce favorable outcomes.

Lastly, if the conversation is going well, end it right there. You want to end things on a great note.This makes her want more as well as keeps you as mysterious. We mentioned the mysterious point earlier in this article and this last tip is going to seal the deal with that. Leaving a great conversation with a girl on a high note is the best thing as it leaves a lasting impression. It lets her know that you have your own life to live and that you have other things going on in your life. At this point you may want to ask for an email address so you can maybe continue this interesting conversation later on when you are not so busy with other things. Of course these are only a few tips you should keep in mind when knowing how to talk to girls, there are much more in depth tips and techniques you can dive into. Nonetheless, with these dating advice tips in mind you are well on your way to learning how to talk to girls successfully.